What do you imagine when someone says a "sensual woman"? Do you envision a voluptuous siren full of desire and always eager to engage in sexual activities or a mindful woman who feels connected with her senses and owns the pleasure that her body is here to provide her with?
for most of the people, sensuality equals sexuality which in reality is not the case. I would say that amplifying your awareness of senses and body does influence the level of your sexual desire and makes sex a more profound experience but it doesn't equal it. so what does "sensuality" mean? if you look up in a dictionary (that is what I like doing to avoid a linguistic misconception) you will see that sensuality means "relating to or consisting in the gratification of the senses or the indulgence of appetite". Yes, it doesn't say anything about sex or sexuality. So can you be sensual without being or feeling sexual? Yes, of course. When you eat a juicy delightful grape and do it mindfully and slowly, do you always feel sexually aroused? I don't think so. When you swing on a swing and try to be aware of how your body feels when the swing goes up and down, try to catch the sensation of the fresh breeze on your skin like a salvation especially on a very hot summer day, grasp the joy from the long childhood memories, do you usually feel a sexual desire? No, I don't think so. I love pleasing my body and senses and I am so grateful for their magnificent potential to let me feel this pleasure. Not necessarily always a sexual pleasure but all kinds of pleasures coming from different stimuli: a visual, an audial, a tactile, a fragrant, or a gustatorial one. To be sensual for me means "being" in my senses and body and also "learning" about my responses and feelings. To be sexual for me means "being in my sexual desire and sexual activities which for sure involves using all my senses and body. Therefore as I have mentioned already if a person practices sensual mindfulness or sensual intelligence, as a result, it can enhance and beautify the experience of sexual sensations, but that is not the only great consequence that accompanies such practice. Being sensual also results in increasing and boosting the creativity as when I stay mindful and present with my senses, I discover so many new angles of trivial things, I start seeing curiosity, novelty, the potential in ordinary things as well as paying attention to the things, phenomena and feelings I haven't noticed before that inspires me immediately start creating and sharing my discoveries with the world in the form of images, videos, content creation, etc. Being sensual triggers desires. It makes the whole concept of goal and dream setting a bright, festive and exciting process. That is the major fuel bank for me when I pursue my goals and tasks. When having no desires you don't feel any motivation to fulfill tasks, you procrastinate, you stay in fears and doubts. The moment you go back to your senses (pun intended) you feel home, safe, then, thrilled, electrifying, ready to act. so, the summary is, sensual doesn't equal sexual but rather one of many beneficial consequences coming from sensual intelligence produces amplified pleasant sexual experiences.
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